We live in a culture where we value relationships and marriage. Given the facts, most of us want to get socialized and want a beautiful and stable relationship in our lives. However, there are some people who wants to stay single.
Some singles are alone simply because they haven’t been able to find someone that they want to spend their lives with. Others are single by their choices.
To many, being single may be either greatest adventures of their lives or the most miserable and trying of times. But in reality, this is totally untrue.
Most of us go through the single life phase at least a dozen of times and there is nothing wrong with that. Being single can be fun but sometimes can get frustrating too.
So, here are the ups and downs, the happy and craps of being single:
Pros of being single:
When you are single, you have tons of savings. With the amount of money earned from you job you can probably use it in other important things. You don’t have to go on a regular date or use their money on gifting their partners. Rather, you can use your money in traveling to different places with your friends and families.
The only good thing that comes from being single is not being worried about any of your secrets getting out in the open. There is not sort of fear of cheating or hiding anything from anybody. Your mind will always be clear about that matter.
You don’t really have much to worry about commitment issues. You are most likely to message anyone of your friends and not make a big deal about it. You are free to see anyone or hangout with anyone. There is no justification to your partner about where you go or what you do when you are single.
The Desire to Date
You have the freedom to desire to date anyone you like. You have the freedom to choose whoever you like. You can talk to a guy or a girl on Facebook or any dating apps and also cease the conversation when you get bored. There requires no explanations or guilt on desiring to date when you are single.
This is the time to explore new and healthy hobbies and to experience every bit of life you possibly can. You can delegate most of your free time to complete as much work as possible. And the rest of the time you can spend it stress free or work free with your friends and families.
This is huge for anyone being single. You can get to enjoy your independence. You don’t have to worry about anything. If you want to see your friends, you don’t have to worry if your partner is going to feel left out. If you want to go on a vacation, you don’t have to worry about your partner getting mad because you didn’t ask him/her.
Your pocket money may rise but when you are single, you are very lonely. You have one to go out with in order to spend your money. Having increase in savings is just a brutal reminder that you are currently alone. This can be more frustrating than being in a relationship.
Care and affection
When you are single you have to deal with all your worries by yourself. There may be no one to express your deepest pain to. You may not get the care and affection you want in your happiest or saddest moments of your life.
Lack of intimacy or romance
Depending on how outgoing you are, intimacy or romance can become a problem for you if you are single. When you see the couples outside being romantic, hugging and holding hands, that when you miss out all the romance in your life. That is the time when you start to feel, “I wish I had someone.”
Whether you want to travel the world or states, you always need a partner with you. Being singe just makes it more difficult to do this. Not only while travelling, but even when you are eating or reading books, you start to feel lonely. This happens when you stay single for a longer period of time.
You are the boss
A relationship makes you more organized than the way you are. Even if there are two people to decide, the decision is always made for the betterment of each other. A partner brings stability to your life which is probably absent when you are single. There is no one to guide you when you are single.
When you are single, you have a lot of time available which you can use for having fun and exploring your talent. But at the same time, you may end up falling for bad habits like porn, drugs, alcohol and smoking. If the time not used properly, it can have an adverse effect on yourself.
As you can see, there are lots of pros and cons of being single. But no matter what end of the spectrum you are on, there is no need to rush on anything. As much fun as it can be to stay single, having a special person can be fun too. However, do not try to rush into anything too soon or force anyone to do it. Just go with the flow and let things happen, the way they are meant to happen.